I don’t have many friends who like children. And the ones that do, all live far away, so it’s hard to connect with people sometimes who don’t like/understand kids. Personally, I don’t understand how you can’t like them, seeing as we were all once kids ourselves… I mean, had our parent’s had the same thought process we wouldn’t be here… but nevertheless, each to their own, it’s just refreshing when that friend that comes to visit wants to see your child too.
I have a few select friends who are like family to me, and I just wish they lived closer. One of them is Abi, and I’m grateful that even though she lives far away, she still makes the effort. It REALLY says a lot.
It’s gotten to the point where Riley is always asking for Abi, because she is a lot of fun, not just with me, but with him also. She came down this week and had him up on her shoulders all through town… something I could only DREAM of doing haha! Riley had such a blast and can’t wait to see her again.
In social media land, it’s easy to think you have a gazillion friends. It’s easy to think your best friend from way back when is still the same as they were when you last saw them how ever many years ago. It’s easy to think you are much closer to them than you actually are. Truth is, when you leave, you are erased from a lot of people’s heads. Out of sight, out of mind as they say! But I think it’s important to try and keep in touch with those that truly matter to you. It’s also important to take the hint when being ignored. Sure people are busy, have kids, work, but to consistently not respond to a message and not hear from them for months on end… or to only ever receive a forwarded video when they are supposed to be your blood relative who hasn’t made the effort to see you in years…but you see they are online every day… know your worth and leave them be. I do wish I could take my own advice better on this. I give SOOOO many chances it’s unbelievable. I think people will be the same as they were when I last saw them, no matter how long ago it was. It’s almost as if I press pause on our interaction rather than just keep letting their lives play on. Fear of being forgotten? Maybe.
Then of course there’s the family you inherit. Luckily for me, my mum in law ADORES Riley, so there is never a shortage of cuddles when she is around. Sometimes you need to just count your blessings, and those that aren’t for you, leave behind.
That’s all from me, sorry
not sorry it was a bit deep! It’s just been on my mind.
Love Ayesha x